A Father’s Day Letter to His Children on Living Happy, Successful Lives

Dear Kids:

It’s Father’s Day. Usually I’m the one getting the cards and letters from you guys but I thought I’d turn the tables & send each of you a letter instead, as my days of parenting are coming to an end. All of you are fast becoming adults. I want you to know I loved every minute being your dad. Each of you has given your mom and I so much joy, happiness and laughter. I would gladly do it all over again but time marches on. How we spend that time determines if we have happy, successful lives or unhappy, poor lives and that is why I am writing this letter to each of you. I want each of you to have happy, successful lives. But happiness and success just don’t happen. You need to create happiness and success by doing specific things. Here’s a list of some of those things that will help put you on the track towards happiness and success:

  • Find that thing in life that you are passionate about and make it your life’s purpose.
  • Never quit on a dream. Persistence creates good luck.
  • Build your goals around each one of your dreams. Pursue those goals every day.
  • Spend 30 minutes every day reading for self-improvement. Almost nobody does this. The ones who do are called rich people.
  • Seek out career mentors. Finding a career mentor is the fast track to success and happiness.
  • We are all on equal footing when it comes to time. Don’t waste it. Limit T.V. to no more than an hour of every day. Why watch other people’s lives on T.V. when your lives are far more important. Don’t spend more than 30 minutes a day on Facebook or Twitter or other Social Media/Internet sites, unless it’s career-related.
  • Call every one you know at least once every three months just to say hello.
  • Call everyone you know and care about on their birthday. This keeps your relationships alive.
  • Call everyone you know when they experience a life event. This puts your relationships on steroids, growing them faster and stronger than any other call.
  • Relationships are everything in life. Develop and grow only those relationships with people who are positive, happy, upbeat and focused on pursuing success. Avoid those who are negative, depressed and lack direction in life. These are toxic relationships that will drag you down in life. Remember like attracts like. If you want to be happy and successful hang around happy, successful people.
  • Exercise every day. Make sure to include 20 – 30 minutes of aerobic exercise in with your routine. Aerobic exercise feeds your brain with oxygen, gets your metabolism going and keeps the weight off.
  • Volunteer at least 5 hours a month for some cause you believe in. You’ll not only be helping people but you will also develop strong, long-lasting relationships with good people.
  • Watch what you eat. Don’t eat more than 300 junk food calories a day.
  • Save 20% of your net pay and live off the remaining 80%. This forces you to live below your means.
  • Avoid accumulating any credit card debt. If you are, then this means you are living above your means and you have to cut back.
  • Drink in moderation. Stick to beer and wine and avoid the hard stuff. It will only get you in trouble. Of course, don’t do any drugs. Alcohol is bad enough.
  • Remember the 5:1 Rule. Listen for 5 minutes for every 1 minute you talk.
  • Filter every thought you have before it comes out of your mouth. Saying whatever is on your mind is a Poor Habit.
  • Control your thoughts. Thoughts become things. If you have positive, upbeat thoughts your life will mirror your thoughts. Do not let negative thoughts or sad thoughts into your mind. Cancel them out and replace them with positive, upbeat thoughts. Use daily affirmations to control your thinking.
  • Control your emotions. Never lose your temper. Anger is a Poor Habit.
    Be thankful for what you have. Every day look back on the the prior day and think of 5 things that you are grateful for.
  • Don’t confuse a wish with a goal. A goal is only a goal if it is 100% achievable and requires physical activity. Otherwise it’s just a wish. Always have at least 1 goal you are working towards.
  • Don’t gamble. Gambling is a Poor Habit.
  • Listen to self-improvement audio books or podcasts when you are driving or exercising.
  • Don’t gossip. Most gossip is negative and negative thinking and talking is a Poor Habit.
  • Do more than you are paid to do.
  • Don’t procrastinate. Procrastination is a Poor Habit.
  • Always seek feedback. Feedback, good or bad, makes growth and learning possible.
  • Create multiple sources of income. That’s what successful people do.
  • Attend funerals of family, friends and colleagues at work.
  • Practice gratitude every day. Gratitude is the gateway to a positive mental outlook. Success and happiness can only be found by those with a positive mental outlook.
  • Love. Love solves most problems. Show everyone who deserves it, love.

Kids, remember that success, like failure in life, is just a process. Both are determined by your habits, behaviors, choices and your thinking. Good habits automate success and happiness. Bad habits automate failure and unhappiness.

It’s doing the little things in life that makes the big difference.

I Love you all so much.

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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit, Money.com, India TV, News.com Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money, SUCCESS.com, Inc.com, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider, Credit.com, Bankrate.com and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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  1. This letter was so inspiring. I’m going to send 1 of these steps to my kids everyday as a means to inspire greatness!

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