Are You a Blamethrower?


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We all have habits we are unaware of. Sometimes these habits are good and sometimes they are bad. One bad habit that 90% of the poor people in my study had was not taking responsibility for the circumstance of their lives. In short, they blamed everyone but themselves for their financial circumstances.

There are plenty of people who have this Poor Habit of making excuses. You see them all around you. They blame traffic for getting into work late. They blame their boss or “politics” for not getting the promotion. They blame the economy for their financial problems.

When you make a habit of blaming others or outside forces for things that go wrong in your life, you essentially give up control of your life. You become a blamethrower. And it doesn’t take long for those around you, especially bosses and supervisors, to label you as a person who cannot be trusted with responsibility. When you blame others or outside forces when things do not go your way, you are essentially saying to supervisors, clients, customers or anyone else who relies on you – “don’t’ trust me with responsibility“.

Blamethrowers do not get raises and promotions and they are the first ones to be fired by their company, clients or customers. Let everyone you know see you, instead, as someone who throws themselves on the sword when things go wrong. Taking individual responsibility for everything that happens in your life, even bad things, helps you regain psychological control of your life. People around you will respect you for it. They will see that you as a person who can be trusted with responsibility. Stop being a blamethrower and start making a habit of taking responsibility for things that go wrong.

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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit,, India TV, Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money,,, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider,, and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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    I want to be a self-made Millionaire …….please help….I want to read more books ….

    • Email me ( and I will send you some ebooks

      • Hi Tom I too would like more book suggestions or ebooks. I’ve been digesting information that you gave me. Now where to go ie read?

        • I listen to 4-6 audiobooks a month KK. You can order 2 books at a time at most places. They charge between $20 – $20 a month. I also customize my Google News page for topics I want to read about. Many of the audiobooks and the Google topics I read reference authors and books. Then I go to Amazon or Barnes and Noble and buy the books.

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