Are You Raising Your Child to be Rich or Poor? 10 Poor Habits Parents Unknowingly Teach Their Kids

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A recent study by Brown University, in which nearly 50,000 families were surveyed, concluded that habits in children are unlikely to vary after age 9. Since most of those early years for kids are spent at home, the bulk of the habits children adopt will come primarily from their parents. As infants and toddlers, our brains are hard-wired by nature for “monkey see, monkey do” behavior.  As a result, children pick up the vast majority of their habits from their parents. Good or bad. Whether you realize it or not you are teaching your children certain habits that set them up to succeed or fail in life.

In a 2013 survey conducted by the Associated Press, they found that 80% of America’s adults struggle with joblessness, poverty, near-poverty or reliance on welfare for at least parts of their lives. While you may see yourself as good parents, stats don’t lie. 80% of kids grow up to struggle financially as adults. What are parents doing wrong? And what can parents do to set their kids up for success?

I spent five years studying the habits, thinking and behaviors that 177 self-made millionaires and 233 poor individuals learned from their parents. I discovered many things that separate the rich from the poor. Below are ten key areas I identified where parents are failing their children:

Fail #1 – Toxic Friends

Children are influenced by their environment and that environment includes who they associate with on a regular basis. The parents of those 177 self-made millionaires in my study were obsessed with who their kids associated with. Were their friends good or bad influences? Were their friends exposing them to good or bad habits? Were their friends good or bad students? What type of parents do my child’s friends have? The friends your child spends the most time with are the ones you need to be worried about. How well do you know your child’s friends? How well do you know their parents? If the answer is not very well, then you are failing your kids.

Fail #2 – Your Children Don’t Read

How many books does your child read a week, a month or a year? In my study, 63% of those self-made millionaires were required by their parents to read two or more books a month. But not just any books. They had to read books that increased their knowledge in some way. What books should you be making your kids read?

  • Biographies of other successful people.
  • History or historical fiction books.
  • Science fiction or science-related books.
  • Hobby books.
  • Personal development books.
  • Literary classics.
  • Philosophy books.
  • Sports legends.
  • Travel books.

It didn’t end there. The parents of those self-made millionaires quizzed their kids about the books they made them read. They kids could not escape accountability because they knew Mommy or Daddy would ask them about the books they were reading. Famous Neurosurgeon and Presidential candidate Dr. Ben Carson’s mother made he and his brother read every day and then required them to give her with a summary of the books they read every week. Dr. Carson said he was not happy being made to read but, after realizing there was no escape, he decided to read books that interested him. These happened to include biographies of other rich and successful people. Dr. Carson recounts in his own books, gifted Hands and One Nation, that many of those successful people rose from poverty. Many were even poorer and less educated than he was. And he thought to himself if those poor people can become successful why can’t I? Dr. Carson then dedicated himself to becoming a straight A student so he could go to college and then to medical school to become a Doctor. Books literally changed his life. One habit, changed his life. One parent, changed his life. Are you making your kids read every day? If not, then you are failing your kids.

Fail #3 – Poor Health Habits

In my study, the parents of self-made millionaires made sure their kids ate right and exercised almost every day. Seventy percent of those millionaires limited their consumption of junk food to less than 300 calories each day. Too much junk food leads to obesity, can result in Type II Diabetes and can damage your child’s heart and arteries. Seventy-six percent of the parents of those self-made millionaires made sure their kids to exercised twenty- thirty minutes each day. The predominant exercise was cardio-related: running, jogging, etc. Blood’s major purpose in the body is to carry nutrients (glucose and oxygen) to the cells and to carry waste out through our lungs in the form of carbon dioxide. When we exercise we increase blood flow throughout the body. The more you exercise the greater the blood flow. This means more nutrients and more waste removal. Exercise also increases blood flow into the Dentrate Gyrus. The Dentrate Gyrus is part of our brain’s Hippocampus, a region involved in memory formation and neurogenisis (birth of new brain cells). Exercise also stimulates the production of Brain Derived Neurotrophic Factor (BDFN). BDFN is miracle grow for brain cells. Exercise, particularly cardio, is like candy for the brain. It actually grows the size of the brain and increases your IQ. Are you feeding your kids the right brain candy? If not, then you are failing your kids.

Fail #4 – Video Screen Overload

In my study, 67% of the parents of self-made millionaires limited their kids TV time to one hour or less a day. Other modern day time wasters like cell phones, Facebook, video games and iPads were not in vogue at the time these self-made millionaires were children, but they are just as wasteful. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, the average 8-10 year old spends around eight hours a day staring at video screens: TVs, cell phones, iPads, video games, computers, etc. Most of this time is non-learning time, which means it’s wasted time. That time should be put to better use such as reading, studying, school club activities, volunteering, etc. Do you limit how much time your kids spend staring at video screens? If not, then you are failing your kids.

Fail #5 – No Control Over Words and Emotions

Eighty-one percent of the self-made millionaires in my study were taught by their parents to control their words and emotions. As a result, these millionaires were able to build strong, powerful relationships with others. Their parents made them understand that not every thought needs to come out of their mouth and not every emotion needs to be expressed. Doing so damages relationships; relationships that could otherwise open important doors for your children down the road. Are you teaching your kids to control their thoughts and emotions? If not, then you are failing your kids.

Fail #6 – No Purpose in Life

Eighty percent of the self-made millionaires pursued some major purpose in life. This was some dream or vision they were chasing. They built goals around their dreams and never quit trying. Having a main purpose in life, I discovered from my research, creates persistence, a key success trait. Where parents fail most often is in pigeon-holing their kids into two or three activities, typically sports activities. How can a child ever find out where their talents lie if they are limited to two or three activities? Only by exposing your children to dozens of activities during their childhood will they be able to find their inner talents. Everyone has unique, special talents. Are you exposing your kids to different activities every year? If not, then you are failing your kids.

Fail #7 – Negative Thinking

Seventy-one percent of the self-made millionaires in my study were indoctrinated by their parents to be optimistic about life. They were taught to believe in themselves. As a result, they enthusiastically pursued their dreams and goals as adults. Their optimism infected everyone around them. They became magnets for other success-minded people. This helped them in creating teams that would eventually lead them to success. Are your children being raised with a positive mental outlook? If not, then you are failing your kids.

Fail #8 – Me First

In order to get, you must first give. You must give value to others if you want to succeed in life. Giving always comes first. It was no surprise that 79% of the self-made millionaires in my study were required to volunteer for charities or non-profit groups when they were young. This forged a habit out of giving their time, money and expertise. Many of the individuals who run non-profits or charities are successful people. They have developed strong relationships with other success-minded people. These contacts can help open doors for your children. Are your children volunteering? If not, then you are failing your children.

Fail #9 – Entitlement Mindset

Entitlement Thinking is a Poverty Habit that creates dependence. The successful individuals in my study avoided Entitlement Thinking. They were raised to believe that the world did not owe them a living and nothing in life is free or should be free. When you are given things for free, they have little to no value. These millionaires were taught that you have to work for everything you want in life. This builds character and raises kids to be self-sufficient. The self-made millionaires in my study were raised to believe that they alone were responsible for providing for themselves. Entitlement Thinking is a cancer that will program your mind for poverty. Are your kids being raised with an Entitlement Mindset? If so, then you are failing your kids.

Fail #10 – Victim Mindset

Thirty-one percent of the millionaires in my study came from abject poverty. Forty-five percent came from the middle-class. That’s 76%. These 177 self-made millionaires were able to rise above their impoverished or modest financial circumstances in life and become rich. They didn’t do it by blaming others, the government, Wall Street or rich people. They did it by taking responsibility for their lives and breaking free of the habits, thinking and behavior that limit success in life. When blaming others for your circumstances becomes a habit, you’re resting your butt on a broken stool. That stool will eventually collapse, dragging you to the ground. Accepting individual responsibility for your life, your habits, your behaviors, your choices and your thinking gives you a ladder to help you climb out of your current circumstances. Blaming others for your life circumstances relegates you and your children to a life of poverty, since you have accepted the fact that your poverty is outside your control. You were born poor and there are forces at work who are intent on keeping you poor. You’re a victim of poverty. That’s all nonsense. It it were true then no poor person could become rich. Yet 31% of the rich in my study started out poor. They may have been poor but their parents raised them with a can do, rather than a can’t do mindset. Are you raising your kids to believe that they are victims of society? If you are, then you are failing your kids. 

It’s up to parents to mentor their kids to succeed in life. If parents don’t step in and mentor their kids, trust me, someone else will. Someone who may not have your kids best interest at heart. Your kids are like clay. You can mold that clay into any sculpture. Make that sculpture a work of art for you and the world to admire.

If you want to find out if you are teaching your kids the right habits find out here: RICH HABITS TEST PARENTS

Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit, Money.com, India TV, News.com Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money, SUCCESS.com, Inc.com, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider, Credit.com, Bankrate.com and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
 
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