Rich Habits Poor Habits Episode 44 | Being Selfish Gets a Bad Rap

What if I told you that being selfish is a success trait?

It might piss you off to hear a comment like that, right?

But what if I reworded it and said something like this: The path towards success requires the pursuit of dreams and goals that add value to the lives of other. 

Now that doesn’t sound so bad, does it?

It almost sounds selfless, instead of selfish, doesn’t it?

Tom Corley’s research on the habits and traits of successful people is pretty clear.

You need to be selfish in the pursuit of your dreams and goals.

Pursuing your dreams and goals is a selfish act.

It puts you first and others second because pursuing your dreams and goals comes at a cost – time spent with family and friends takes a back seat.

But here’s the rub.

Your dreams and goals must in some way benefit others, otherwise you will fail in realizing them. 20523264 L

No one will care about your dreams and goals if they benefit only you.

But if your dreams and goals add value to the lives of others, they will happily reach into their pocketbook or wallet, whip out their ATM card and reward you for improving their lives.

You see, selfishness is hard-wired into every human being.

It’s a biological imperative to be selfish.

Survival demands selfishness.

Everyone you come into contact with is focused on one thing – themselves.

The trick is to pursue dreams and goals that appeal to the selfishness genes that drive our very existence.

Pursuing your dreams and goals is a selfish act by its very nature.

But when those dreams and goals help improve the lives of others, your selfishness morphs into selflessness.

When you selfishly pursue dreams and goals that benefits humanity in some way, you have found the magic blue pill that not only changes your life for the better but also improves the lives of others.

Being selfish is a good thing but only when that selfishness benefits society.

Something to think about.

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Rich Habits Poor Habits Episode 43 | Never Climb A “Mountain” Without A Guide

Whether it’s climbing Mt. Everest or any other challenging mountain it’s not safe to scale it alone. 

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The potential for danger is high; and like most journeys in life, having someone with you who’s been there before and who has your back — to guide you, encourage you to climb higher, and to warn you of any roadblocks or dangers — is critical to your success.

Guides make all mountaintops attainable.

And the same goes for success and building wealth.

Having guides, coaches, or teachers to help you climb that mountain of financial freedom is one of the most important principles to guarantee your life success.

Learn And Model From Others Who Have Succeeded Before You

What does “model” mean?

It means to emulate or follow someone else’s method.

If you were to climb Mt. Everest, would you try finding your own way up the whole mountain on your own?

Or would you maybe get an experienced guide to show you the way and lead you up the mountain?

I think you’d get a guide, yes?

Why?

Because otherwise you’d be dead.

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It’s really simple.

It’s no different when it comes to success in any field of endeavor.

Why on earth would you try to figure everything out on your own when you can learn from others who have succeeded before you?

That is one of the best things about the network marketing industry, for example.

In what other business would other people who sell the same product as you, actually do whatever they can to help you?

It would never happen.

People selling the same stuff as you would usually never help you.

Yet there are tons of people in the network marketing industry earning $20,000, $50,000, $100,000 or more per month.

Why isn’t everybody earning that kind of money in other industries?

It’s simple.

They’re not willing to learn and follow the method to earn that kind of money, to be rich and financially free.

Why?

Because they have to do it their way.

I’m not saying copy every blink the person who teaches you makes.Landscape 2124113 1920

But when climbing Mt. Everest, the difference between stepping directly in your sherpa’s footprint and 12 inches outside of it could be the difference between life and death.

I want to remind you of something I tell all of my students: Your way has gotten you exactly where you are.

I’m not saying that that’s bad, but it may not be all that fantastic either.

If you want something different, you’re going to need a new and different way.

Your way doesn’t work like that.

You have to be willing to follow your teacher’s guidance to the letter and do it exactly the way that they tell you to do so.

You do that for a certain amount of time, then you can do it your way.success

How much time do you try it their way?

It’s simple.

Until you’re rich!

When you’re rich, then do it your own way.

Until then, you do it the way of the person who is successful ahead of you.

Don’t be a smarty pants and say, “I know better. It’s my life, this works better.”

Well… I’ll say it again: Your way has gotten you exactly where you are. Are you happy with that?

Now I want to share with you one more bonus principle that radically changed my life and I believe it will do the same for you.

Rich And Financially Free People Admire Other Rich And Financially Free People Sunrise 840201 1920

I want to share with you a philosophy that changed my life.

It comes from Huna, an ancient Hawaiian philosophy of life: “Bless that which you want.”

If you see a beautiful car, bless that car and the owner of that car…

If you see a beautiful house, bless that house and the person who owns the house…

If you see somebody with a wonderful, amazing business, bless that business and that person…

Why?

Because anything that you negate, you can never have.

It doesn’t mean don’t be uncritical of the principles of the rich and successful folks you admire, but even then, there’s no room for jealousy.

The more you can learn to admire their achievements, the more you will spiritually be open to learning how they did it.

So when you find a teacher, a coach, or a person in a field of area doing really well that you relate to…

  1. Learn and model from them
  2. Admire them
  3. Follow their lead and don’t veer from it until you’ve made it to the top!

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I want to share with you a philosophy that changed Tom Corley’s life.

It comes from Huna, an ancient Hawaiian philosophy of life: “Bless that which you want.”

If you see a beautiful car, bless that car and the owner of that car…  

If you see a beautiful house, bless that house and the person who owns the house…

If you see somebody with a wonderful, amazing business, bless that business and that person…

Why?

Because anything that you negate, you can never have. Families by state

It doesn’t mean don’t be uncritical of the principles of the rich and successful folks you admire, but even then, there’s no room for jealousy.

The more you can learn to admire their achievements, the more you will spiritually be open to learning how they did it.

So when you find a teacher, a coach, or a person in a field of area doing really well that you relate to:

  1. Learn and model from them
  2. Admire them
  3. Follow their lead and don’t veer from it until you’ve made it to the top

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Rich Habits Poor Habits Episode 41 | Don’t Worry – Everyone is Hardwired to be Miserable

The latest research on happiness is a real punch in the gut.

According to David Buss, psychology professor at the University of Texas, we are hardwired for unhappiness.

And we have evolution to blame.

It turns out emotions like unhappiness, jealousy, distress and disgust spurs individuals to improve their conditions in order to return to a state of happiness.

Unhappiness drives us to make necessary changes in our lives.

And what may be even worse, happiness is hardwired to be temporary.  7399571_l-300x200

The purpose of this little evolutionary slap in the face is to prevent humans from becoming too complacent with their happy lives so that they will continue to do things to improve their lives in an effort to chase happiness.

No matter what amazing good things happen in our lives that make us happy, we always revert back to our happiness baseline.

That’s why the happiness that results from some good fortune like winning the lottery or inheriting a million dollars or the happiness that we experience from buying something new, doesn’t last very long.

If it did, humans would fold up their tents and stop trying to improve their lives. 

Being hardwired for unhappiness is why we compete, why we chase dreams, why we go to college, why we start new businesses and why we sacrifice for something better down the road. inspiration success hard wrok

This very unique, hardwired human trait, drives us to do things that will make us happy.

So, if you’re unhappy with your life, there’s a good reason.

Life is screaming at you to grow and improve.

It wants you to become a better human being.

It’s time you listened to that voice

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Rich Habits Poor habits Episode 40 | How much does luck have to do with success?

If you’re going to have any beliefs at all, believe in luck.  

One of the fascinating things Tom Corley discovered in his five-year Rich Habits study was the fact that every self-made millionaires, at some point, got lucky.

  • 84% attributed their good luck to their daily habits
  • 87% said they were lucky
  • 92% said they created their own luck

The rich do not believe random good luck plays a role in wealth creation.

They believe, however, that you create your own luck.

There are many ways the wealthy create their own luck:

  • Pursuing a dream. Luck visits dreamers who act on their dreams.  success
  • Forging habits around your dreams. Good habits are like snowflakes on a mountainside. You don’t notice the accumulation until there is an avalanche. Good habits create an avalanche of good luck.
  • Building relationships with the right people – success-minded people who can open doors for you through their relationships. Good luck likes to associate with positive-minded people.
  • Learning new things opens your eyes to opportunities. Opportunity is the home good luck
  • Taking calculated risks. Calculated risk is a type of risk that requires you to do your homework. Good luck finds the prepared.
  • Finding a mentor. Mentors open up doors for you and steer you down the right paths in life. Good luck will find you if you are on the right path.
  • Being a mentor. Mentees eventually become experts themselves. Like mentors, your mentees can open up doors for you. Good luck is often found behind closed doors.
  • Staying upbeat and positive. Negativity shuts down part of your prefrontal cortex and effectively blinds you to opportunities. Good luck always finds the optimist.
  • Staying focused allows you to accomplish and learn things quitters never accomplish or learn. Good luck always finds the most focused individuals.
  • Persistence. Devoting yourself to one thing for many years forces you to become expert in that one thing. Good luck always finds the persistent.

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The Big 3 Greatness Qualities

From my Rich Habits research I uncovered 3 Greatness Qualities most of the self-made millionaires in my study possessed: Authenticity, Loyalty and Honesty

 

Good Debt vs Bad Debt

You can become rich by living below your means or by pursuing a dream. Pursing a dream almost always requires that you take on risk in the form of debt.

 

The Truth About Happiness

Long-term happiness is an impossibility and should never be your goal in life.

 

Rule of 3

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5 AM Club

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