Habits That Boost Self-Esteem & Confidence


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One of the common threads I found in the 177 self-made millionaires I studied was the aura of confidence each exuded. My visceral reaction was that self-made millionaires must all have been born with some innate self-confidence; something hardwired into them from birth. I would later learn, after completing my nearly two-year analysis of my data, that I was wrong. What these self-made millionaires all had in common were certain daily habits that boosted their self-esteem and infused them with self-confidence.

My study of daily habits has taken me down many holes that I never imagined I would explore. One is neurology – how the brain works. When it comes to self-esteem and confidence, there are certain daily habits that light up the reward center of the brain. The reward pathway begins in the center of the brain in a region called the ventral tegmental area. Here, special neurons release the neurotransmitter dopamine, which gives you a jolt of pleasure and makes you feel good. In order to make sure you repeat this behavior in the future, the reward pathway is connected to areas of the brain that control memory and behavior. Whether they knew it or not, those self-made millionaires had forged certain daily habits that were lighting up the reward center of the brain, infusing them with self-esteem and an abundance of confidence. What were those daily habits?

  • The Daily Habit of Learning Something New – Your brain loves novelty. It loves to learn new things. Each time you learn something new, your brain rewards you. And this boosts self-esteem and confidence.
  • The Daily Habit of Overcoming the Fear of Risk – Most people avoid taking risks. Risk spells danger. Risk forces you outside your comfort zone. But self-made millionaires refuse to succumb to the fear of risk. They move outside their comfort zone. They take risks. Every time you take a risk and survive, your brain rewards you. And this boosts self-esteem and confidence.
  • The Daily Habit of Producing a Desired Outcome – Achieving goals is about producing a desired outcome. Self-made millionaires pursue desired outcomes. Every time you realize a goal and produce the outcome you desire, your brain rewards you. And this boosts self-esteem and confidence.
  • The Daily Habit of Overcoming Obstacles – When we are faced with an obstacle we have a choice. Overcome it or succumb to it and move around it. Those who overcome it, succeed in life. Those who move around it, make a habit of avoiding obstacles life throws in their way and never reach their full potential. Self-made millionaires don’t move around obstacles – they attack them and overcome them. Every time you overcome an obstacle, your brain rewards you. And this boosts self-esteem and confidence.
  • The Daily Habit of Persistence – Winners never quit and quitters never win. When you persist and do not quit on yourself, your brain rewards you. And this boosts self-esteem and confidence.
  • The Daily Habit of Productivity – When you accomplish those things on your to-do list that are directly related to your goals and dreams, you get closer and closer to achieving those goals and realizing your dreams. When you are productive in the pursuit of your goals and dreams, your brain rewards you. And this boosts self-esteem and confidence.

Self-esteem and confidence are created by our habits and are not innate. In order to become more confident, you must create specific habits that light up the reward center of the brain. When you do, your brain will reward you with more self-esteem and confidence.


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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit, Money.com, India TV, News.com Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money, SUCCESS.com, Inc.com, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider, Credit.com, Bankrate.com and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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