One Habit ALL Millionaires Learned From Their Non-Millionaire Parents

In my five-year study of the daily habits of the rich and poor, I learned about one common success habit the millionaires in my study ALL learned from their non-millionaire parents – Pursue Big Goals, a Main Purpose or a Dream. When parents teach their children about the importance of pursuing big goals, a main purpose or a dream, they are laying a foundation that will enable their children to become enormously successful in life.

When anyone pursues a big goal, purpose or dream, they activate all sorts of innate cognitive abilities. One of these is called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). The RAS is as a sensory filter inside the limbic system, the second oldest part of the brain. Its main function is to block out almost all sensory input. If it didn’t, our brains would go into sensory overload and quickly use up all of the glucose available. Glucose fuels our brains and our bodies. Without it both would shut down. The RAS stops this from happening by limiting what sensory information gets into our brain. Here’s a good example how the RAS works:

Imagine you’re in a crowded airport. Thousands of people are talking. It’s all white noise to you. Then someone calls your name and you immediately turn around. That’s the RAS at work. It is tuned in to certain very specific sensory input, like your name, and it blocks out everything else, like the white noise at an airport.

When we set a big goal, purpose or dream, our RAS is toggled on and becomes tuned in to sensory data that helps us in realizing our goal, purpose or dream. Opportunities we didn’t see before, become obvious. The law of attraction is actually the RAS system at work. You are not actually attracting opportunities, but rather becoming aware of them, thanks to the RAS. This is why those who things they are passionate about are so much more successful than everyone else. Their RAS is working for them, allowing them to achieve great things in life.

When we pursue a big goal, purpose or dream, we are also introduced to another unique cognitive ability called “Unforced Focus”. This is the most powerful type of focus humans have. Unforced Focus allows us to learn at an accelerated rate. It gives us a super human attention span. New knowledge and new skills are easier to learn. Edison had it, Tesla had it, Einstein had it, Steve Jobs had it, Warren Buffet has it. People with Unforced Focus can work on something for hours on end, with laser beam attention, stopping only to eat and sleep.

When you pursue your big goal, purpose or dream you also trigger certain success traits: Passion, Persistence, and Patience. When these three success traits come together, success is virtually guaranteed.

I came up with a simple exercise to help your children find their passion in life:

  1. In the first column, list everything that has ever made you happy in life.
  2. Highlight those happiness events that require some type of marketable skill.
  3. In the second column, assign a # to each highlighted happiness event with #1 being the happiest one and #2 the next happiest one etc.
  4. In the third column, assign a # to each happiness event with #1 being the greatest potential income, #2 the next highest income etc.
  5. In the fourth column total the numbers. The lowest numbers represent your greatest passions.

Indulge your kids in pursuing each one of these passions for six months at a time. Your child will eventually find that one passion that will become a lifelong pursuit; one that will bring them success and happiness for their entire lives.


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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit,, India TV, Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money,,, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider,, and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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