How to Distance Yourself From Toxic Relationships


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One of the most important Rich Habits is growing relationships with other success-minded individuals. These relationships lift you up in life and open doors that are otherwise closed to you. One of the most common Poor Habits almost everyone has is having long-term relationships with individuals who turn out to be toxic, meaning they drag you down in life: they ask for money, they engage in negative gossip that hurts you or a close family member, they throw you under the bus and damage other relationships you have or they drag you into their problems.

It’s not easy to just turn off a long-term Toxic Relationship because they were very likely forged over many years. There’s just a lot of history there. Consequently, I’m constantly asked the same question, which is:

How do I distance myself from Toxic Relationships?

One common thread with Toxic Relationships is that these individuals eventually cross the line and when that happens there’s always a lull in the relationship following an event. Their M.O. or routine is to try to repair their relationship with you by offering an apology or by doing something nice for you. This lull represents your opportunity to pull back and distance yourself. Your reaction should be to not react when they attempt to repair the relationship. When they attempt to repair the relationship, ignore it, pull back, distance yourself. Then, the next step is to make a habit of limiting your exposure to these Toxic Relationships. Limit your contact with them as much as possible. This sends a message to them that the relationship is not going to continue as it did in the past. Eventually, the Toxic Relationship will weaken. They will shift their focus away from you and onto others who are more tolerable of their transgressions.

Remember, Rich Relationships are the currency of the wealthy. If you are on a path towards success, you need to build up your Rich Relationships and weaken your Toxic Relationships. Toxic Relationships will hamper you on your journey towards success. Avoid them like the plague.

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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit,, India TV, Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money,,, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider,, and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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