It’s Science – Those Who Struggle in Life Are Blinded By Hate


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Our lives are a reflection of our habits.

In my book Change Your Habits Change Your Life, I provide the latest science on habits and habit change. I also highlight many of the daily habits that hold us back from living the life we deserve to live.

One prevalent daily habit that creates poverty and destroys lives is the Poor Habit of giving into negative emotions, like hate.

Here’s the science behind this Poor Habit.

The amygdala is part of the inner, middle portion of the brain known as the limbic system. It is rich in neuro-receptors for cortisol, a stress hormone. It is often considered the command and control center of the emotional part of the brain, primarily negative emotions. It controls the fight or flight response and is activated by negative emotions. Once activated, cortisol levels rise, which leads to stress. This short-term stress is a good thing. It forces us to be aware of potential dangers in our environment that could cause physical injury or death.

However, when we hold on to negative emotions like hate, anger, fear, envy or pessimism, those cortisol levels remain elevated, leading to a condition known as chronic stress.

Chronic stress has all sorts of adverse consequences such as: higher blood pressure, depressed immune system and diminished prefrontal cortex activity.

Elevated blood pressure can lead to heart disease or a stroke.

A chronically depressed immune system opens the door to all sorts of infections, viruses, respiratory disease, cardiovascular disease and even cancer.

Diminished prefrontal cortex activity impairs:

  • Learning
  • Decision-making
  • Planning
  • Social behavior
  • Impulse control
  • Short-term memory and
  • Long-term memory.

You turn on the amygdala, the subconscious part of your brain, when you give into negative emotions like hate, anger, fear, pessimism or envy.  When this happens, the conscious part of your brain, the prefrontal cortex, takes a back seat.

When the amygdala takes over, your focus and awareness becomes narrowed. As a result of this narrowed focus and awareness, your ability to learn new things is impaired, you become oblivious to solutions to problems and you are unable to see opportunities – opportunities that are all around you.

Those who hold onto hate, anger, fear, pessimism or envy, are literally operating with half a brain. As a result of this impaired cognitive functioning: they struggle financially, struggle at work, struggle with relationships, are unable to grow through learning and are unable to identify opportunities or solutions to problems.

The result? An unhappy, frustrated and unsuccessful life.

Your state of mind is critical to your success in life. Giving into negative emotions is a Poor Habit. This Poor Habit seeks out environmental triggers that give rise to negative emotions.

You can find fault in everything in life. There are plenty things and people to hate, plenty of things and people to be angry about, plenty of things and people to fear and plenty to envy. You are, everyday, bombarded with environmental triggers that can set off negative emotions. You have a two choices: #1 You can respond to those triggers or #2 You can ignore them.

The Rich Habit is to be constantly vigilant in maintaining a positive mental outlook, and to ignore environmental triggers that give rise to negative emotions. Don’t give negative emotions a foothold in your life. Stay positive and upbeat, always. Your success, health and happiness depends on it.

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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit,, India TV, Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money,,, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider,, and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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  1. shripad joshi says:

    Thank you for sharing Tom ! Appreciate your help

  2. Thanks Tom. I appreciate the daily inspiration. One question I had though, would it be more accurate to say that “Those who are blinded by hate struggle in life”? After all, I imagine some people struggle in life for reasons other than hate… just a thought. Either way, I think we can all agree with Yoda, “Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”

  3. Davene Meehan says:

    This certainly brings to mind one person in particular who has had so many problems. Today she was inundating me with complaints of another person–not the first time… How does one help such a person see a positive side of life?

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