Brain Science: How Positive Parenting Creates Successful Children

You are either naturally positive, optimistic and confident or naturally negative, pessimistic and doubtful because of parenting and not because of your genes. The root cause of a positive or negative outlook in life is sourced to something known as “mirror neurons”. Mirror neurons are created by the cingulate cortex. The cingulate cortex resembles a belt that lies in the middle of the neocortex. Neurologists consider it to be a part of our limbic system. Our brains are composed of three primary parts: Neocortex, Limbic System and Brain Stem. The limbic system houses all of our emotions.

As infants and toddlers, our cingulate cortex goes to work to create something called “monkey see, monkey do” behavior. When infants and toddlers are exposed to more positive emotions than negative emotions from their parents, this creates a positive mirror neural pathway. When exposed to more negative emotions than positive emotions, this portion of the brain creates a negative mirror neural pathway. In effect, infants and toddlers mirror the predominant emotional state of their parents, physiologically. These positive or negative mirror neural pathways are then stored in the basal ganglia (part of the limbic system where habit storage takes place).

What’s interesting about all this is that once these positive or negative mirror neural pathways make their way into the basal ganglia, they become habits in a child, which stays with them into adulthood. This is why some adults are naturally positive and others naturally negative. Positive, optimistic and confident people typically grow up to realize greater financial success in life and are, by and large, happier.

If we want to end poverty, parents need to become success mentors to their children. I’ve advanced the discussion further by introducing neurological science into the parenting equation. Success parenting begins from the moment a child is born. Parents need to consciously expose their children to positive emotions and positive thinking from the moment of their birth. Doing so creates the neurological infrastructure for a positive, upbeat, confident child which leads to success and happiness.


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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit,, India TV, Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money,,, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider,, and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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