Are You and Your Spouse on the Same Page?


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I read every email I receive from subscribers/readers/fans. I read every tweet. I read every Facebook post and LinkedIn post. I do this because I often find inside these communications an opportunity for an article that could add value to everyone. One such opportunity presented itself yesterday. I think this is an important topic and thought I’d share some of my research.

When both spouses are on the same page, success is almost guaranteed. When both spouses are not on the same page, success comes hard. What do I mean by being on the same page?

  • Both spouses are frugal when it comes to money.
  • Both spouses are habitual savers – If one spouse is not a saver, it will virtually guarantee that you will never become financially independent.
  • Both spouses have similar long-term financial goals.
  • Both spouses have a positive, upbeat mindset – Having a positive mindset is a prerequisite for success. If one spouse suffers from depression and does not seek treatment to manage it, that virtually guarantees you will not succeed in achieving your dreams and goals. It will derail you from the pursuit of success. Drug or alcohol addictions will create a toxic environment and infect both spouses with a negative mindset. Gambling addictions have the same toxic effect on mindset for both spouses.
  • Both spouses are supportive of each another – We all have dreams and goals. Supportive means each spouse supports the other in the pursuit of their dreams and goals. Sixty-one percent of the self-made millionaires in my Rich Habits Study were business owners. Their spouses supported them in their efforts to grow their business. Oftentimes, both spouses worked together in growing the business.
  • Both spouses must be loyal to each other – Infidelity will not only doom a marriage, it will almost always prevent you from becoming rich and successful. Only 19% of the millionaires in my study were divorced, whereas 46% of the poor in my study were divorced. There are numerous studies that found divorce of a spouse is more stressful than the death of a spouse, which negatively affects your health. Not only that, divorce is often financial suicide. Most never recover financially from a divorce. The few who do learn that it takes an average of 5-7 years to recover from a divorce.

When both spouses are not on the same page, success becomes very difficult. It’s like having a business partner who is not working on the business. Both spouses must pull the same cart together. When one spouse is not on the same page, the cart will eventually become too hard to pull on your own.

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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit,, India TV, Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money,,, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider,, and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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  1. Rarely will two people be the same on everything, but understanding the other’s direction and trying to mold your collective direction so you’re at least pointed the same way is valuable too. You may not both be hyper-frugal, but knowing what’s important to your partner can help smooth out a lot of life’s bumps.

  2. This post is spot-on! We’ve been married 33 years and our success in marriage has been because we’ve been, as you say, “on the same page”. Is this easy? No, not always. We continually hone our attitudes and thinking. It’s a life-long endeavor to be on the same page… the same as living a successful life as husband and wife. Sharing the same Values as a couple has made this easier for us – in fact, our first, differentiating Value (of rank-ordered three) is Loyalty! 😉 The other two are Optimism and Discovery. I’m really enjoying your emails – thank you for the time and value you’re providing.

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