The Be – Do – Have Formula For Happiness and a Successful Life


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I recently read a very interesting piece written by Benjamin Hardy titled: 35 Things You Should Know Before Becoming Successful and it reminded me of some of the research I had gathered regarding happiness. One of the problems with happiness is that we have all been programmed to seek happiness, as if it were some goal.

So we go out and buy stuff either by saving money or accumulating debt. Purchasing things creates short-term happiness. Eventually that happiness fades away. Meanwhile, the money’s gone or the debt has to be paid, and that creates unhappiness.

Or we pursue careers that will give us the greatest potential for high compensation because we believe that if we can make a lot of money we can purchase happiness with our high earnings. So, we work long hours, slaving away, and over time we realize we are unhappy. We don’t like what we do for a living. When that happens, it really doesn’t matter how big our house is, how nice a car we drive, how much stuff we’re able to shove down our family’s throats.

Happiness is not a goal, it’s a state of mind, it’s a state of being. The three step formula for happiness is as follows:

  1. Be first: Be the person you want to be. If that’s happiness, be happy for what you have. If that’s a writer, become a writer. If that’s a business owner, become a business owner. If that’s a better father or husband, be a better father or husband.
  2. Do next: Do the things today that make you the person you want to be. Start expressing gratitude for the things you have today, start writing today, start that business today, start doing things that make you a better father or husband today.
  3. Have: When you Be and Do, you will eventually get what you desire. If that’s happiness, you will have happiness. If that’s a career as a writer, you will have that career, if it’s your own business, you will have that business, if it’s a family that adores you, you will have it.

Our thoughts and the actions we take, attract to us the life we desire.

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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit,, India TV, Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money,,, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider,, and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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