There are many things that create unhappiness. The list is a very long one: illness, death, job loss, financial problems, heartache, conflict, envy, hate and anger are just a few examples. But while there are many factors that create unhappiness there are three factors that wash away all of the causes of unhappiness:
- Feeling in Control of Your Life – In my Rich Habits Study, 91% of all millionaires were decision makers and, interestingly, 82% of all millionaires said they were happy. When you feel like you are in control of your life, it makes you happy.
- Unmet Expectations – We all have expectations. When we set our expectations too high and fail to meet them, we become unhappy. One of the keys to happiness is, therefore, to manage your expectations. Believe in yourself, have faith in what you’re doing, be enthusiastic about pursuing goals and dreams, but if you want to be happy, make sure, in everything you do, you at least meet any expectations you might have. How? By lowering your expectations, by setting the bar low, in terms of all outcomes, you set yourself up to either meet or exceed your low expectations.
- Positivity – Having a positive mental outlook creates happiness. Being grateful for what you have is the gateway to a positive mental outlook. Start expressing gratitude for what you do have and you will shift your outlook from negative to positive.