The Power of Influence – How Parents, Teachers and Managers Can Change Someone’s Beliefs and Habits Forever

In a 2006 Duke University study it was determined that 40% of all of our daily activities were habits. Habits are unconscious activities that were formed over many years. Often these habits were forged prior to becoming an adult. Most habits are created by emulating certain habits of our parents. Some are derived from our environment both inside the home and outside the home. We tend to copy the habits of those we surround ourselves with most frequently. Our beliefs and our emotions play an important role in habit formation. A belief is formed two ways:

  1. Through repetitive programming that may be internal – our thoughts, or external – repetitive statements made by influence relationships such as our parents, teachers, friends, family etc.
  2. Through life events that were anchored to strong negative emotions (disappointment caused by a failure event) or strong positive emotions (happiness caused by a success event).

Once a belief is accepted, habits generally follow. The early part of everyone’s life is fraught with failure events: we engage in new activities and make mistakes, or fail at an activity. These mistakes and failures are life’s way to help us evolve and learn. They are not intended to negatively affect the rest of our lives. The are intended to positively affect the rest of our lives by teaching us what not to do. Unfortunately, the people around us, our parents, friends, teachers etc., unintentionally resort to criticism that does affect us the rest of our lives. This criticism sticks because it triggers negative emotions. Once an emotion is coupled with a thought, it sticks. It becomes a belief. “Tom’s no good at math”, “Tom is clumsy”, “If Tom’s head wasn’t attached to his neck he’d forget it somewhere”.

That last line was spoken to me by a loved one when I was just nine years old. I remember where it was said, when it was said and and how it made me feel – stupid. That event created a limiting belief. I believed I was not smart and, so, I got into the habit of never doing my homework and struggled into the 8th grade. My struggles ended when my very attractive 8th grade science teacher, Ms. Summers, told me that she believed I was actually very smart and that my problem was that I was not doing enough homework. At the time I was failing science. She told me she believed I was going to do well on the next test. I remember going home on the bus that day and all I was thinking about was studying for my science test that was three days away. I studied every night for three days. I still remember that test. I also remember the fuss my science teacher made to the whole class when she handed me my test results. I received the second highest grade in the class, a 99. The emotion I felt is with me to this day.

My science teacher shattered my limiting belief in the 8th grade and I went on to become a solid B+ student. I was able to pass the CPA exam, get a Masters degree in taxation, and pass the Certified Financial Planning ten hour test on the first try. That new belief that I was smart changed my study habits for the rest of my life. One person’s words changed my life forever.

Our daily habits are directly associated with our beliefs. If we have bad daily habits, it is because we have limiting beliefs driving those bad habits. If we have good daily habits it is because we have strong positive beliefs driving those good habits. Parents, teachers, company managers and anyone in the position of authority has the capacity to eliminate the limiting beliefs and bad habits of their children, students and employees. We all need to positively inspire everyone we are in a position to influence in our lives. One person can change the entire life of another person by simply giving them a new belief to believe in which will, in turn, rid them of their corresponding bad daily habits forever.

Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit, Money.com, India TV, News.com Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money, SUCCESS.com, Inc.com, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider, Credit.com, Bankrate.com and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
 
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