Tip o’ the Morning to Ya – Rich Etiquette: Conversing Socially

Rich Habits Word of the Day

Narcissistic – Selfish, egoistic. Tom learned from his study of the wealthy that most people are narcissistic and only focused on themselves during conversations.

Rich Habits Fact of the Day

Warren Buffett likes to talk and he likes to talk with his hands moving freely in front of him. To many Buffett seems like a natural in front of large audiences. If only this had always been the case.
Buffett used Andrew Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People” to overcome his more shy and reserved self. Most people who hear him speak today would not guess that he was a very shy young man. Not until his early 20’s did this fear of interacting with others start to diminish.
He became a teacher at night at a local small college so he could develop his skills in public speaking and to get rid of his nerves in front of large audiences. He also did this so he could learn how to better present material that is hard for most people to grasp and really understand.


Rich Habits Lesson of the Day

Your going to meet a lot of people in your life. It is important to know how to talk to people in social or business settings. I found there’s a common thread that runs through everyone. They are single-mindedly focused on themselves. Most people are thinking about one thing during every conversation- themselves. Everyone thinks they are the most important person in the world.  It’s a human tendency to be selfish and this shows up everywhere, including when we are carrying on a conversation with people.  When you run into these new people in life you need a plan, a process to help you turn every relationship into gold. Part of that process is to learn as much about your relationships as possible and you do that by asking questions about their life. Get to know them. Always focus on the other person and resist the human tendency to put yourself first. Make being unselfish in conversations a Rich Habit by asking these questions to every new person you meet in life:

  • Basic contact information: name, address, phone, email, Twitter, Facebook etc.
  • Are you married?
  • If yes, what is their spouse’s name?
  • Do you have any children?
  • If so what are their names?
  • What’s their birthday?
  • Where do they live? Do they like where they live?
  • do they have any hobbies?
  • What schools did they go to?  Did they go to college or graduate school?
  • What schools did their spouse and children attend?
  • What are they most proud of?
  • Do they know any celebrities or important people? Who?
  • What do they do for a living?
  • What does their spouse do for a living?
  • Do they like to read? If so, what do they like reading? Who’s their favorite author?
  • Do they like music? Who’s their favorite band, singer, etc?
  • What do they do for a living?
  • If their spouse or children work, what do they do, where do they work?
  • Political affiliation?
  • Religious affiliation?
  • Where did they live before their current home?
  • Do they like play sports? If so, what and when and do they play any sports now?
  • Do they drink alcohol? If so, what do they drink?
  • What’s their favorite foods?
  • What type of car do they drive?
  • What are their goals?
  • What groups, non-profits or community organizations are they affiliated with?
  • Where do they like to vacation?
  • Do they travel at all? If so, where have they been?
  • What did their parents do for a living?
  • Where did they grow up?
  • Who are their favorite celebrities?
  • What licenses or professional designations do they have?
  • What are they really good at in life?
  • Do they exercise? If so, what do they do?

Last thing. Always look everyone in the eye and smile a lot.


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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit, Money.com, India TV, News.com Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money, SUCCESS.com, Inc.com, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider, Credit.com, Bankrate.com and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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