True Happiness Hides Behind a Life of Meaning and Purpose

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The new American mania lately has been the pursuit of individual happiness. It seems like everyone is writing and talking about happiness. I have a lot of research surrounding happiness by virtue of studying the behaviors, activities, thinking and emotions of over 350 rich and poor people over a five-year period. They were all in search of happiness, but each group had there own definition of it and, as a result, each group pursued it differently.

What I learned from my five years of studying these two groups is that those who were successful in life pursued one type of happiness and those who were unsuccessful in life pursued another type of happiness. The poor group, or those who were unsuccessful in life, pursued short-term happiness while the rich group, or those who were successful in life, pursued long-term happiness. The effects of this are self evident.

When I asked the people in my study who were successful,  “Are You Happy?”

82 % said YES

When I asked the people in my study who were struggling with a life of poverty the same question

98% said NO

Short-term happiness is the result of engaging in activities from which you derive immediate pleasure or immediate gratification. This might include drinking alcohol, doing drugs, gambling, watching an abundance of TV, spending hours on the Internet, reading books of fiction (fantasy, science fiction, romance or suspense), or engaging in arousal activities such as sex-related activities, skydiving, amusement parks, etc. These short-term happiness activities pay off immediately. You get an instant dopamine rush and feel good almost instantly. But then the happiness feeling fades away and you eventually recoil back to being unfulfilled, sad or even depressed. So, you seek out another short-term happiness activity to get that dopamine rush. It’s a vicious cycle, chasing one happiness activity after another. Yet, despite all of that happiness chasing, you are never truly happy for long.

Long-term happiness, on the other hand, is a completely different type of happiness. Those successful individuals in my study who found long-term happiness were not on a singular mission to find happiness. They were after something completely different and far more significant – they were on a quest for a life of meaning. They found meaning by pursuing something they were passionate about, something that gave their life purpose, meaning and fulfillment. They were pursuing their dreams!

True happiness cannot be pursued as an end to itself. Those 82% of successful individuals in my study who found happiness devoted their entire lives to the pursuit of their dreams. They created a script or blueprint of their ideal future lives, defined the dreams that made that life possible and then spent the rest of their lives creating, pursuing and achieving the goals that turned each dream into a reality. It wasn’t always easy. Oftentimes, they encountered obstacles and roadblocks that created stress, doubt and uncertainty. But their passion for pursuing something meaningful gave them the strength to forge on. Ultimately, they found their long-term happiness within the journey itself. True happiness, I learned, hides behind a life of meaning and purpose.

Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit, Money.com, India TV, News.com Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money, SUCCESS.com, Inc.com, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider, Credit.com, Bankrate.com and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
 
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Comments

  1. Thanks for the article and for spending time to do all that research! Looking at my own life, I do see that the pursuit of my dreams and passions has created a lot more long-term happiness for me. However, I also feel that there’s nothing wrong with going for both short-term and long-term happiness at the same time.

  2. You are completly right regarding short-term happiness. Even impulsive purchases come in this category. However, after a short time one feels guilty about wasting money and that makes a person sad. But how does one stop this as will-power doesn’t seem to help. Infact one feels better after donating that item to someone as it’s presence continues to make one feel guilty.
    It’s great I am getting all this knowledge from you, while you must have invested a lot of time and energy in your research. It does make me feel lucky.
    As job prospects aren’t great at present, one so called “friend” advised me to take loans. However, I am totally against that as loans surely make ones life miserable.
    I’d rather take whatever small works which though pay little but it’s still ones own money. I take up whenever available exam supervision, paper correction. Better to keep trying instead of taking loans.

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