What to Do When You Hate Your Life

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Does your life suck? When you look at yourself in the mirror, do you smile or do you feel like throwing up on the mirror?

If you’re like most, you are probably not happy with your life and have no idea what to do to alter your current circumstances. You feel lost and helpless.

So, what can you do? How do you even begin the process of altering your current circumstances?

You can do one of two things: get rid of your mirror or re-write your life script.

When you re-write your life script, you are actually creating a blueprint of the life you desire.

And here’s the most amazing thing about creating a blueprint for your life – it will automatically set in motion the changes that must occur in order for you to live the life of your dreams. I call this process Dream-Setting.

You probably never heard of Dream-Setting before. Dream-Setting is the springboard for creating the life you desire. Dream-Setting lays the foundation for your new life. Dream-Setting is the act of clearly defining your life and the dreams that make that life possible.

Here’s the process:
Step One – Ask yourself what you want your ideal life to be ten, fifteen or twenty years out. Then write down every detail of your ideal future life. Be very specific in the details: the income you earn, the house you live in, the boat you own, the car you drive, the money you’ve accumulated, etc. This script of your ideal life will become the blueprint by which you construct your new life.

Step Two – Use this script as a springboard for identifying each one of your dreams. On a separate piece of paper make a bullet point list of each one of the details that represent your ideal life. These would be the income you earn, the house you live in, the boat your own, etc. Each one of these details represents a dream.

Read your script at least once a week. This activates a part of the brain known as the subconscious, or old brain (brain stem and limbic system). Your old brain is the most powerful part of the brain. It has been around millions of years longer than the conscious part of your brain, also known as the conscious brain or new brain (neocortex).

During sleep, your new brain is fed with ideas, suggestions and inspired thoughts from your old brain. This offline communication will pull and push you into taking certain action. At first you will not understand why you feel compelled to take such action, which reveals itself through inspiration and intuition. All you need to do is trust the process. Your old brain knows exactly what needs to be done. It will direct your new brain on what action it needs you to take.

As you begin to act on this inspiration and intuition, your true calling in life will emerge. People and opportunities will show up, seemingly out of thin air, to help you and guide you to where you need to go in life. Go with it. Don’t question it.

As you take action your life will begin to change. It takes time. Many years, in fact. But your life will change. And for the better.

FYI, in my book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life, I get into much more detail, but the above process should be enough to help get your life back on track.

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Thomas C. Corley About Thomas C. Corley

Tom Corley understands the difference between being rich and poor: at age nine, his family went from being multi-millionaires to broke in just one night, due to a catastrophic fire that destroyed his Dad's thriving business. For fourteen years they struggled with poverty. There were eleven in Tom's family, and they lived in constant fear of losing their home.

Driven by the desire to unlock the secrets to success and failure, Tom spent five years studying the daily activities of 233 rich people and 128 poor people. He discovered there was an immense difference between the habits of the rich and the poor. During his research he identified over 300 daily activities that separated the “haves” from the “have nots.” Tom decided to write a book to share what he learned. That book, Rich Habits: The Daily Success Habits of Wealthy Individuals (1st Edition), went on to become an Amazon Bestseller in the United States forty times over a three year period. To give you some perspective, in order to be a true Amazon Bestseller in the United States, where you actually receive a specific Bestseller designation from Amazon, you need to be in the top 100 of all books sold by Amazon in the United States in a given day. Rich Habits did that for nearly thirty straight days, rising as high as #7, eclipsing such Bestselling authors such as Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki and J.K. Rowlings. Imagine that - an unknown, first-time, self-published author selling more books than J.K. Rowlings!

Tom now travels the world, sharing his Rich Habits and motivating audiences at industry conferences, corporate events, universities, multi-level marketing group events, and global sales organizations’ presentations and finance conferences. He has even spoken on the same stage with famous entrepreneurs and personal development experts, such as Sir Richard Branson, Robin Sharma, Dr. Daniel Amen, and many others.

Tom has shared his insights on various national and international network, cable, and Internet television programs such as CBS Evening News, NBC News, Yahoo Financially Fit, Money.com, India TV, News.com Australia, and a host of others. He has been interviewed on many prestigious nationally syndicated radio shows, including the Dave Ramsey Show, Marketplace Money, and WABC.

Tom has been featured in numerous print magazines—such as Money magazine, Inc. Magazine, SUCCESS Magazine, Entrepreneur magazine, Fast Company magazine, More magazine, Epoca Magazine (Brazil’s largest weekly) and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance magazine—and various online publications, including USA Today, CNN, MSN Money, SUCCESS.com, Inc.com, and the Huffington Post. Tom is a frequent contributor to Business Insider, Credit.com, Bankrate.com and a few other media outlets.

National publicity has garnered international media attention for Tom and his Rich Habits research spanning 23 countries. Broadcast media, online publications, and television throughout Asia, the South Pacific, Europe, the United Kingdom, and Central and South America have shared his powerful message.

In an effort to help parents, grandparents, teachers and adults become success mentors to the younger generation, Tom released his second book, Rich Kids: How to Raise Our Children to be Happy and Successful in Life in 2014. This book was the self-help category winner of the 2015 New York Book Festival and Runner-up in the prestigious 2015 Writer’s Digest Self-Published Book Awards Contest. In 2016 Tom released his third book, Change Your Habits, Change Your Life. This book provides the latest science on habit change as well as more of Tom's unique research on the specific habits that helped transform 177 ordinary individuals into self-made millionaires.

Besides being an author, Tom is also a CPA, CFP, and hold a master’s degree in taxation. As president of Cerefice and Company, CPAs, Tom heads one of the premier financial firms in New Jersey.
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  1. I really like this activity. I am going to write it on my to do list. Thank you for sharing.

  2. If there s no way you can stay, that s fine, too. Again, at least you know. Don t quit your job yet though, regardless of how much you hate it. It s easier to find a job when you have a job and you probably won t be eligible for unemployment if you quit.

  3. Amazing blog and videos- just what I needed! Thank you!

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