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Affirmations That Work and Affirmations That Don’t Work

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I hate to tell you this but you’ve probably been led astray by most of the self-help experts out there regarding affirmations.

Affirmations only work if they are tied to a dream and a goal that is grounded in reality.

Let me give you an example.

Let’s say you are studying to become a Certified Public Accountant. If you follow the advice of the self-help experts, they will tell you to create the following affirmation:

“I am a CPA”

The experts say such an affirmation will serve to reprogram your subconscious mind into believing you are a CPA and, thus, your subconscious mind will push you to taking action that will lead to your becoming a CPA. It will somehow magically inspire and motivate you to become a CPA.

Unfortunately, that’s bad advice. It’s bad advice because that affirmation creates an internal conflict between your conscious mind, which is grounded in reality, and your subconscious mind, which is fed a vision of the future you.

Your conscious mind knows you are not a CPA, so it does not accept the programming.

As a result, your conscious mind will not accept that affirmation. OK then, what will it accept?

“I am studying 2 hours every day to become a CPA”

This affirmation works because it is tied to a dream and a goal that is grounded in reality. The dream is becoming a CPA and the goal is studying every day. That goal is achievable. It’s not unrealistic. Your conscious mind will accept this affirmation because it believes that it is possible for you to realize your dream of becoming a CPA, so long as you study for 2 hours every day.

This affirmation also serves as an accountability partner. If you say the affirmation every day, it serves as a reminder that you need to study in order to realize your dream.

With this affirmation, your conscious mind and subconscious mind now work as a team in order to make your dream a reality. There is no conflict between your two minds.

Three Cs To Avoid

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I’m not a big fan of affirmations but there is one affirmation I use every day and it’s this:

Never Criticize, Condemn or Complain

Each one of these Poor Habits drags you down, creating a negative mindset.

You want to avoid them like the plague.

They have the opposite effect of a magnet – pushing people away from you.

You want to be a magnet for people, not a deflector beam that pushes people away from you.

Those who constantly criticize, condemn and complain are negative, toxic people who must be avoided at all costs. They will drag you down with their negativity.

Plus, because they are constantly offending others, if you are associated with these toxic people, you too will be labeled as toxic and that will negatively affect your ability to build relationships with others.

Toxic people spread their negativity like a virus throughout their social network. And they are very easy to identify because they – Criticize, Condemn and Complain.

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The gulf between Rich Habits and Poverty Habits is staggering.

If you’re well off already, chances are you already adhere to most of these Rich Habits.

Integrating the ones you’ve neglected will push you further.

But be assured: If you’re doing fine now without minding these principles, it’ll catch up to you.

Some of the differences between rich and poor are obvious, while others are a little more surprising.

Here are the most important Rich Habits you can take up to reach and maintain your wealth potential.

1. Avoid toxic people

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We are only as successful as the people we spend the most time with.

Of wealthy, successful people, 86 percent associate with other successful people.

But 96 percent of those struggling financially stick with others struggling financially.1

If you want to end your financial struggles, you need to evaluate each of your relationships and determine if they are a Rich Relationship (with someone who can help you up) or a Poverty Relationship (with someone holding you back).

Start spending more and more time on your Rich Relationships and less on your Poverty Relationships.

Rich Relationships can help you find a better job, refer new business to you or open doors of opportunity.

2. Don’t give up

Those who are successful in life have three things in common: focus, persistence and patience.

They simply do not quit chasing their big goals.

Those who struggle financially stop short.

3. Set aside the self-limiting beliefs holding you back light bulb idea leader think smart clever failure motivate thought

If you’re hurting financially, you’ve probably told yourself some of these untruths before: Poor people can’t become rich. Rich people have good luck and poor people have bad luck. I’m not smart. I can’t do anything right. I fail at everything I try.

Each one of these self-limiting beliefs alters your behavior in a negative way.

Almost four out of five wealthy people attribute their success in life to their beliefs.

Change your negative beliefs into positive affirmations by reading lessons from the greats of personal development, like Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie and Jim Rohn.

4. Get a mentor

Among the wealthy, 93 percent who had a mentor attributed their success to that person.

Mentors regularly and actively participate in your growth by teaching you what to do and what not to do.

Finding such a teacher is one of the best and least painful ways to become rich.

If you know your goals, find someone who has already achieved them.

You’ll be amazed by how many people want to lend a helping hand.

5. Eliminate “bad luck” from your vocabulary

Those struggling financially in life have a way of creating bad luck for themselves.umbrella-1588167_1920

It’s a byproduct of their habits.

Poverty Habits, repeated over and over are like snowflakes on a mountainside.

In time, these snowflakes build up until the inevitable avalanche—a preventable medical problem, a lost job, a failed marriage, a broken business relationship or a bankruptcy.

Conversely, successful people create their own unique type of good luck.

Their positive habits lead to opportunities such as promotions, bonuses, new business and good health.

6. Know your main purpose

It’s the last Rich Habit, but it might be the most important. chess-game-leader-investment-strategy-win-success-negotiate-300x235

Those people who pursue a dream or a main purpose in life are by far the wealthiest and happiest among us.

Because they love what they do for a living, they are happy to devote more hours each day driving toward their purpose.

Odds are, if you are not making sufficient income at your job, it is because you are doing something you do not particularly like.

When you can earn a sufficient income doing something you enjoy, you have found your main purpose.

Believe it or not, finding this purpose is easy.

Here’s the process:

  1. Make a list of everything you can remember that made you happy. success risk wealth
  2. Highlight those items on your list that involve a skill, and identify that skill.
  3. Rank the top 10 highlighted items in the order of joy they bring to you. Whatever makes you happiest of all gets 10 big points.
  4. Now rank the top 10 highlighted items in terms of their income potential. The most lucrative skill of all is worth 10 points.
  5. Total the two ranked columns. The highest score represents a potential main purpose in your life. Presto!

As you can see, the differences between rich and poor are simple—sometimes intuitive—but not insignificant.

Aim to take up all 16 of these habits, and you’re almost guaranteed to become better off.

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Motivational Habits

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Self-made millionaires are self-motivated.

They create daily routines, or habits, that help them stay positive and motivated. Below are examples of some of the Motivational Habits that self-made millionaires use to stay motivated:

  • Write a script of your ideal, perfect life.
  • Read your ideal, perfect life script.
  • Re-write your ideal, perfect life script.
  • Create a Vison Board of the things that exist in your ideal, future life.
  • Look at your Vision Board and daydream.
  • Express gratitude for three things that happened yesterday. Gratitude gets you in the right farm of mind. It is the gateway to a positive mental outlook.
  • Read something inspirational. This could be a book, blog or article.
  • Surround yourself with upbeat, enthusiastic people. They will keep you infected with an upbeat attitude.
  • Create positive affirmations and review them periodically.
  • Engage in some activity, like exercise, which makes you feel good about yourself.
  • Engage in some fun activity.
  • Create a list of goals you would like to accomplish in life.
  • Review your list of life goals.
  • Create a Victory Log.
  • Review you Victory Log.
  • Listen to uplifting music.
  • Listen to uplifting podcasts.
  • Watch an uplifting TEDx talk.
  • Reward yourself – prior to engaging in a task, specify a post-task reward. This could be a treat, dinner with friends, a beer, etc.
  • Meditate.

Self-made millionaires create motivational routines that help them stay in the right frame of mind so they can engage in activities which help them move forward in life. Motivational Habits are your personal triggers which help keep you motivated.

A Father’s Day Letter to His Children on Living Happy, Successful Lives

Dear Kids:

It’s Father’s Day. Usually I’m the one getting the cards and letters from you guys but I thought I’d turn the tables & send each of you a letter instead, as my days of parenting are coming to an end. All of you are fast becoming adults. I want you to know I loved every minute being your dad. Each of you has given your mom and I so much joy, happiness and laughter. I would gladly do it all over again but time marches on. How we spend that time determines if we have happy, successful lives or unhappy, poor lives and that is why I am writing this letter to each of you. I want each of you to have happy, successful lives. But happiness and success just don’t happen. You need to create happiness and success by doing specific things. Here’s a list of some of those things that will help put you on the track towards happiness and success: [Read more…]

Confidence is Overrated

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I cringe every time I read an article about confidence. The majority of the time, these articles offer strategies that will help you build confidence which will help you succeed in life. Such strategies run the gamut from positive affirmations, role playing in a mirror, associating with other confident people, adopting confident body language, creating victory lists, and on and on. Just type in confidence in Google and the first 20 hits you’ll see will be articles on how to boost confidence.

What I learned from my five-year study of the wealthy, particularly the self-made millionaires, is that confidence comes and goes even for the rich and successful. It’s like the high tides and the low tides rolling in and out of the ocean. One day you’re riding high with confidence and the next day your filled with nothing but doubts. It doesn’t matter if you have $100 in the bank or $100 million. Confidence is never a permanent thing.

You gain confidence when your actions and decisions succeed in moving you closer to realizing your dreams and your goals. You lose confidence when your actions and decisions keep you stuck or force you backwards, further away from your dreams and goals.

On any given day, Elon Musk is brimming with confidence when one of his SpaceX rockets reaches space or wallowing in misery and self doubt when one blows up.

Confidence is not a driver for success. Rather, it is the byproduct of it. You gain confidence when you succeed and you lose confidence when you fail.

If you lack confidence, welcome to the club. Confidence is not something you can will into existence by staring at a mirror and repeating positive affirmations. Confidence does not create success. Success creates confidence.

 

The Negative Thinking Poor Habit

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Negative thinking is a Poor Habit.

When you make negative thinking a habit, negative things eventually will materialize in your life.

The brain, specifically the subconscious (Brain Stem and Limbic System), goes to work behind the scenes to bring about that which you are constantly thinking about.

It does this through intuition. Intuition is the way the conscious brain (Neo-Cortex) communicates to you what the subconscious wants you to do. If your thoughts are negative, the intuition you will receive will be destructive. It will nudge you to do something that will bring about the negative things you are constantly thinking about. When you are in a negative place, intuition can be destructive.

This is why it is so important to be aware of our thinking and stop all negative thoughts in their tracts. This is also why it is so important to consciously put positive thoughts in our minds through the use of daily affirmations and visualization techniques. The conscious mind cannot hold onto two thoughts at the same time. so, the key to getting rid of negative thoughts is to think about something positive. This pushes the negative thought out of the mind and prevents the subconscious from doing any damage.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your Thoughts Become Things

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Thoughts become things. 

Repetitive thoughts tied to any emotion, good or bad, creates neural pathways in the brain. The brain cannot distinguish between a repetitive thought that is based in reality or one that is a false reality. 

This is why it is so important to control your thoughts.

If your thoughts are positive, upbeat and focused on your ideal reality, the subconscious part of your brain (Brain Stem and Limbic System) will get to work to bring that new reality into existence. 

Daily affirmations, spoken with emotion, just after waking in the morning and just before bedtime, allow the subconscious part of the brain and the conscious part of the brain (Pre-Frontal Cortex) to communicate with one another. This is because when we are waking up or falling to sleep we are in the first phase of sleep, called Alpha phase.

Alpha phase opens the pathway between the subconscious mind and conscious mind via the Corpus Callosum, the mass of brain tissue that separates the right side of the brain from the left side of the brain. The Corpus Callosum also happens to be connected to the three major parts of the brain: Cortex, Limbic System and Brain Stem.

 

 

 

 

 

Confidence is Earned Not Learned

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You cannot learn to be confident. You can’t manifest confidence through your thoughts. Affirmations that are intended to boost confidence will not change a thing. You simply can’t pretend your way to confidence.

Why? Because confidence is earned by taking risks and taking action.

The risk in taking action is that you will face hurdles and obstacles, you will make mistakes and you may experience failure.

But only those who overcome the inherent risks of taking action and, thus, encounter hurdles, obstacles, mistakes and failure, grow. They learn what to do and what not to do. They figure it out.

Eventually, all of that figuring it out, all of that learning what to do and what not to do, leads to success.

And success builds confidence. Those who take risks, take action and succeed become confident because confidence is earned, not learned.

Success Beliefs of the Rich

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In my Rich Habits study I discovered that your beliefs dictate your circumstances in life. Those who are wealthy have different beliefs than those who are poor or stuck in the middle-class.

Beliefs represent the acceptance of something without any proof to back up what we accept as fact. They are inherited unconscious programming. We adopt the beliefs of our parents, family, mentors culture and our environment (neighborhood, town, city, state, country). Most who were raised in poverty, inherited limiting beliefs that hold them back in life.

Those who are able to rise from poverty and become wealthy found mentors who possessed success beliefs or employed certain strategies that enabled them to remove their limiting beliefs and implant success beliefs, effectively re-programming their entire belief system.

The wealthy adopt certain beliefs that promote success:

  • I must read to learn.
  • I am responsible for the circumstances of my life.
  • Money and wealth are good.
  • There is an abundance of money and wealth to go around.
  • Anyone has the ability to become wealthy. I can become wealthy.
  • I can solve any problem.
  • I can overcome any obstacle.
  • I create my own luck.
  • Opportunities are everywhere.
  • Opportunity does not knock. I have to go out and find it and take action.
  • I must earn respect.
  • Failure is just another way to learn.
  • Failure is the stepping stone to success.
  • Risk is good when it is calculated risk.
  • There is good debt and bad debt.
  • No one succeeds on their own. I can only succeed if I surround myself with other success-minded people.
  • I can accomplish anything I put my mind to.
  • Time is the most valuable resource. I must make efficient use of my time. Wasting it is a crime.
  • Birds of a feather flock together. I will avoid toxic people and surround myself with success-minded people.
  • Dreams and goals are the rungs on the ladder of success.
  • If I help others succeed, I will succeed.
  • If I improve the lives of others, I will improve my life.
  • Always exceed the expectations of others.
  • I am in control of my thoughts and emotions.
  • Never quit on a dream.
  • Success takes time.
  • I must save more than I earn and invest my savings in my dreams and goals.
  • I am amazing and unstoppable.

If you want to succeed in life, if you want to become rich, you need to understand the beliefs you currently have and then do some surgery. For a week, write down in a notepad every belief that pops in your head. This belief awareness exercise enables you to isolate any limiting beliefs that are likely holding you back in life. Once you’ve identified those limiting beliefs, then it’s time to remove them and add the beliefs that will enable you to become rich and successful.

So, how do you remove limiting beliefs and implant success beliefs?

  • Associate with individuals who do not have your limiting beliefs and who possess the success beliefs you want to adopt.
  • Read books and articles on self-made millionaires.
  • Read inspirational books and articles.
  • Listen to inspirational podcasts.
  • Watch and listen to inspirational TEDx talks.
  • Create daily affirmations around the success beliefs you want to adopt.
  • Meditate and focus on your new success beliefs (10-15 minutes a day is all it takes).

Your existing beliefs were formed over many years. It takes time to re-program you belief system. How long? At least one year of dedicated effort. But that one year investment will pay you dividends for the rest of your life. Your future you will thank you.