I love to study both rich and poor people. They always have pearls of wisdom, forged in the fires of experience, that force you to reevaluate your habits, thinking and the decisions you make.
One of the things Jon said really rang a bell for me. He said, “never allow anyone to rush you into making a decision. When you feel rushed, this puts you in crisis mode and causes you to make bad decisions.”
This resonated with me because that was one of the seven factors that cause bad decisions, according to my Rich Habits research.
When you make too many bad decisions, that’s a pattern. Patterns indicate habits are at work, behind the scene, causing you to make bad decisions.
The problem with making habitual bad decisions is that they lead to desperate decisions. Desperate decisions force you to do things you do not want to do – things you intuitively know are not going to be good for the future you.
Like a domino effect, bad decisions force you into a position of weakness, which then forces you into making desperate decisions. Desperate decisions eventually come back to haunt you.
Unlike most ordinary bad decisions, desperate decisions are typically well-thought out bad decisions that you must make – you have little choice. You’re boxed in and you know it.
Desperate decisions always are one-sided – they benefit one party and hurt you.
So, in order to avoid being forced into making desperate decisions, you must first understand why you are regularly making bad decisions.
Bad decisions are caused by 7 factors:
- Impulsiveness – Rash, spontaneous, spur of the moment decisions. These are never well-thought out decisions.
- Uncontrolled Emotions – Making decisions when elated, angry or sad.
- Lake of Knowledge – Not doing your homework before making a decision.
- Fatigue – Your prefrontal cortex is the CEO of your brain. When you’re tired, your CEO is impaired and unable to make good decisions.
- Hunger – When you are hungry, this is your body’s way of telling you it needs fuel. When your prefrontal cortex lacks fuel, it will not be functioning at its best.
- Stress – Stress suppresses the prefrontal cortex and allows the emotional center of the brain to take control of the decision-making process.
- Impairment – When you are under the influence of drugs or alcohol, your prefrontal cortex, your CEO, is impaired and not functioning properly.
When you forge the habit of making good decisions, those decisions put you in a position of strength. When you are in a position of strength, you are not forced to do something you do not want to do. You can walk away. You can say no.
Good decisions are decisions that follow three basic rules:
- Doing your homework
- Seeking feedback from experts and
- Deliberation – giving your brain time to consider all of the facts before making an informed decision.
Good decisions usually work out, and when they do, they put you in a position of strength. This enables you to make future positions of strength decisions, decisions that create some long-term benefit, some future good outcome you desire.
It’s not realistic for me to tell you to avoid position of weakness decisions because desperate, position of weakness decisions are often forced upon you by third parties as a result of prior bad decisions you made. You can’t change the past – your previous bad decisions that boxed you into making desperate decisions.
It is, however, realistic for you to stop making bad decisions by following this three-step process.
Good decisions are a firewall against needing to make desperate, position of weakness decisions.